Thank you from the bottom of my heart for lighting candles for my Gabriel while I wasn’t able to. It means the world to me to know you care. Especially during the month of July when it was Gabe’s Birthday and Angelvarsary. I send you my love. Always keeping you, your family and your precious BJ, Wayne and Buck in my prayers. God Bless you.
Stars shining bright above you
Night breezes seem to whisper "I love you"
Birds singing in the sycamore tree
Dream a little dream of me...
Love, Bobby
Dear Cindy and Bobby,
My deepest condolences on the passing of your precious son BJ. I can't believe everything he endured since a year and three months. What a strong boy. I believe his faith had so much to do with his recovery each and everytime it seemed he wouldn't get better.
You sure had your hands filled with five children and two being sick. I hope you realize how special and how strong you both are.
Cindy I could just cry out times, when you explained how things would be bad for BJ and than he'd get better, you have a nice celebration for whatever occassion it was and everyone would be happy and than bang...something would go wrong again. The emotions you and Bobby endured was like a roller coaster...my heart breaks for you both.
Can you imagine that BJ was blessed to receive his Dad's kidney and that you Cindy were able to share your feelings with him on his last day. I think this was a thank you from God for all you did to help make BJ's life as comfortable as possible. Not only did BJ never complain, it seem like you guys never did either. The long hospital stays, the motels, the worry, Jonathan and his illness, taking care of the other family members. God knew what he was doing when he blessed you with BJ.. He knew you were the loving people who could be the best parents that he would need. God bless you both!
I bet his siblings have adjusted because of all the love and strength that got from you that they need.
When Angie died in the horrible car accident, and they told me she passed on, I freaked out and was telling my husband to tell them to stop saying that...all she needed was to hear my voice and she'd wake up...of course I was in shock and I didn't realize all the things I was saying. They told me if she would have lived she would have been more than just a vegatable because she had three major head tramas and her chest from her neck down to her hips was crushed and her ribs had pushed through to her chest...still I didn't care, I thought I could make her better. With time and physo...later when I came to my senses, I realized how blessed I was that she had passed on. Never would Angie wanted to live like that and what kind of a life would it be for her little boy who was shy of three years old by three weeks. This is where God is loving to us. He didn't want her to suffer, he didn't want us to suffer more than we needed too. It would have killed us to see her in the state she would have been in.
I'm so glad that BJ had the many miracles he had when he had the seizures and was brain damaged only to come out of it okay after surgery. Thank you God! As sick as he was and as many operations as he had, BJ died a peaceful death. I wish he didn't have to die, but I'm so glad he didn't suffer and linger in pain and fear!
With his believe in God, I'm sure he feel asleep, knowing he was loved, he loved and Jesus was going to come and take his hand. His life won't be over, he'll be able to help take care of his brothers Wayne and Buck until your all ressurected into a perfect paradise of peace and love. No more sickness, no more pain and no more worry!
Thank you for sharing your story, Cindy. Your a beautiful writer and your compassion is worth a million dollars. Again, I'm thankful that you were the chosen parents for BJ and your other children and God knows you still have so much compassion that your blessed with raising and caring for Jonathan now. I believe things happen for a reason, why we'll probably never know. I trust God only gives us what we can handle.
I never thought I would be normal or live a normal life after Angie's death. It took three years to really be able to say when I laughed, I truly laughed, when I ate, I tasted my food, etc...
I'm so happy you put BJ on Angie's Angel Friend Page, because it's an honor to know they are probably best buds looking after the little ones and that I have met another Angel Family that are so precious and loving.
Luv and hugs
Donna Robert xoxo
p.s I hope you don't mind reading with these colors, but I wanted to use yellow as a reminder of the yellow wheel chair that BJ had to use. He loved the bright yellow and it was donated to another child who may need when he was finished with it.
WHAT A CHAMP BJ WAS AND ALWAYS WILL BE!
Life is like a garden
And friendship like a flower,
That blooms and grows in beauty
With the sunshine and the shower.
And lovely are the blossoms
That are tended with great care,
By those who work unselfishly
To make the place more fair.
And, like the garden blossoms,
Friendship's flower grows more sweet
When watched and tended carefully
By those we know and meet.
And, if the seed of friendship
Is planted deep and true
And watched with understanding,
Friendship's flower will bloom for you.
Light a candle for those we mourn.
Into a new life they will be born.
Do not look for them at the gravesite.
They are somewhere else radiating their beautiful light.
They have gone to a new world where there is no darkness, no pain.
Their light and essence will always remain.
Light a candle for those who have left this mortal place.
They are free to travel through time and space.
When we think of them, they are near.
When we sit in a beautiful garden. Their voices we hear.
When we listen to a divine symphony,
We close our eyes, their faces we see.
Light a candle for they have not really gone.
With each flickering flame, in your hearts they will always belong.